"It's above me now" | Why that's a toxic statement
Sometimes we struggle to find the right words to say in times of uncertainty, anger or just awkward situations. And it drives me insane when I hear someone say "it's above me now" in a situation. I'm going to give you 4 scenarios where saying that is a NO NO!
When you don't wanna accept fault in a situation, YOU CREATED!
You can not start some shit and not finish it. In the adult world, whether you like it or not when you're wrong you need to address it. Does it feel uncomfortable to admit you're wrong? Maybe, more so- yes! You telling me after you started some shit, that "it's above you now" will get yo toxic ass READ!
Using it because you don't know what or how to say something
We should be able to articulate our thoughts and concerns. Whether good or bad, so no matter what I tell you if you can't come up with anything else to say we can no longer converse.
You are expecting a miracle to happen
Acknowledging that God or whomever you serve is going to handle it and that will be all is a dangerous game to play with yourself. Even the good book says "faith without works is dead", so you just going to send that half energy up there so they can do what with it? Truth is, it's not above you, you just lazy!
You AINT being HUMBLE!
I've seen a lot of people coin this phrase to say in so many words, "it's beneath me." I believe there are moments where we can use this (i.e someone is being extremely petty or you simply have done all you can do). However, using this in a establish relationship can be hurtful and damaging to the relationship. If you can't put your pride aside in a moment for the ones you care about and love.... it's a issue.
Truth is, there will be a moment in your life where this is pretty valid to say. But caution you to really break down the disagreement, bad feelings, or whatever it may be before you using this phrase to be dismissive. No one is exempt from being a better person and I believe difficult times and situations make you a better person DEPENDING on how you respond.